‘You get what you focus on’ is a saying that for me
is a very useful reminder to make sure we focus on the right things.
If we focus on how stressed we are, we just end up feeling more stressed. If we focus on how tired we are, we start to feel even more tired. If we focus on losing weight by eating less, what usually happens is that all we can think about is food and eating it!
So, from a wellness coaching perspective, it is so much more effective to focus on what you want (rather than what you don’t want) to enhance your state of wellness or sense of wellbeing.
If we are focusing on what we want to stop doing e.g. smoking, what we want to lose e.g. weight, or what we don’t want to feel e.g. stressed, then we are focusing too much on the problem and often the problem actually gets worse, e.g. we smoke more, we put on weight, we feel more stressed.
If, however, we focus on the desired outcome, the thing we want and state it in the positive, then we are much more likely to achieve that goal. For example, if we focus on increasing our relaxation time, taking more holidays, doing more exercise or making healthier eating choices then with these things in our mind, we are much more likely to change our behaviour and take action to make them happen.
When choosing your wellness goals and activities, state them in the positive, ensure they are things you do want to do and take care to choose things that make you feel healthier and happier.
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